Why men love Blow Jobs…

This article is not meant to be rude or offensive in anyway. I know this is a sensitive topic for many cultures and societies but let us remember that oral sex has been around for many, many years. I hope we can all approach it with open mindedness and light-heartedness. That being said….

Blow job, technically known as fellatio, is the act of stimulating a penis with the mouth, usually by licking, kissing, sucking, nibbling and tickling. This act is performed with the goal of ejaculation or as a foreplay before sexual intercourse. 

I had the opportunity to talk to several guys who took the time to share with me what they love about BJ and how they like it. I also did some research on it and these are my findings. Ladies take note… Here we go….

Why men love blow job

“Blowjob, without question, is the best sexual sensation that men can experience in their life because it gives them the feeling of heaven, whether the giver is a beginner or not. Well, as long as the girl avoids using teeth. All oral stimulation performed to our “package” is considered pleasant, leading us to a pedestal height and a state of psychological and physical vulnerability. Men who never experienced receiving a head can be said to be unlucky, since the sensual and erotic excitement that it provides is substantially incomparable to any kind of sexual act”

“Whether we like it or not, admit it or not, every man wants to be a “macho” man. A husband expects submissiveness from his wife, and it gives him great satisfaction seeing his wife submit to him in the bedroom. Men are always looking for ways to validate their manhood and ego.  A good blowjob makes us feel like Superman” 

“Blowjobs can be a sign of love or a deep sense of connection. If a girl is willing to suck her boyfriend’s dick in earnest, this can be perceived as love or admiration. On the contrary, when blowjobs are a one-night-only thing, the act is purely lust”

Take control 
“DON’T BE SCARED TO INITIATE! Some ladies wait for their men to go down on them first and that’s just… blah”

“Many people gag at the idea of going down on a dick. Even if it’s clean as a whistle, there’s always the fear he’ll forget himself, leaving you to deal with an out of control organ with no apparent off-switch. Grip the penis head as you approach it, and hold it there in a ring formed by your thumb and forefinger. Once he’s in, feel free to place your hands around the penis shaft. This gives you control, allowing you to determine how much you want to take into your mouth”

“What I do personally is show my woman how good oral is by eating her first to make her understand the feeling of being stimulated”

Blow his mind to pieces

“The best part to stimulate is the glans or the head. This is a very sensitive area that will causes ultimate enjoyment when pleasured, so you should give your best shot at it. Cover your teeth with your lips, open your mouth, and slowly slide the head into the warm cave. Once the head is inside, close your mouth and lick the head, making sure that the entire area is touched, especially the uber sensitive area under the head called the sweet spot, the one that forms an inverted letter “V.” Be playful”

“If you’re happy to go down, don’t lose sight of what’s going on upstairs in his head. Frankly, you’re tugging at his brains down there, so you need to pick up on every moan or groan he gives. The better you understand each other, however, the more comfortable you’ll feel”

“And when she sees Dude tighten his glute muscles and looking confused, it means “keep doing what you doing because I’m about to explode” When he tightens his butt muscles, don’t stop!”

“The feeling BJ gives you is inexpressible. I swear it feels so exciting and warm you feel like cumming right there and then. You can’t even feel your feet because it gets very intense”

“Okay, like anything else in life, every guy is different. So you always have to figure out what works for your man before you get down. I personally can cum with a good BJ than having sex.
Do it with pleasure because we usually know if you try to fake it. Let the dick be your ice cream cone. To us guys, its an Art and good Art is always beautiful and heartwarming”

“ BJ turns me on and stimulates my senses depending on how good the girl is of course. Sometimes it makes me cum fast, other times it takes a minute or I just never happen to cum. Mostly, I love it after the first round because it helps with a good second round”

“The sweetest thing about BJ is when cumming, it gathers every single spam because the mouth sucks ten times better than the VJJ. I like when a girl uses her whole mouth; lips, tongue….”

Use your mouth
“What goes on when you’re down there is entirely up to you. Some women use their mouth as if it were a Hoover. Others employ their tongue to great effect. Many do a combination of both. Just be aware that there is no industry standard. Do whatever feels comfortable, and gives you both the greatest satisfaction. Kissing. Nibbling. Even humming a note with his head in your mouth. Whatever you do, we won’t complain!”

“ If need be, create a ring with your index finger and thumb and place it at the base of his shaft. This will allow you to be in control of his length so that licking will be easier. Go up and down, visit the underside and the upside, and do not hesitate to savor the parts that you want to feel. Vary the pressure with your tongue as well as its length. A relaxed tongue covers more shaft area compared to a pointed one”

“It is important for a girl to know what she is doing. She has to be able to use both hands and a lot of saliva. Also be able to blow from her interior cheek”

“Personally, for it to be a good BJ, she knew to only use her lips and tongue, she gives the head a lot of attention with good consistent motion and enough moisture ( I mean it’s named HEAD for a reason). She knew to keep the shaft happy with a firm yet wet grip, stroking and spoiling the entire length with an occasional deep throat….”

“Create an exotic pattern with your mouth on the dick to ensure that the guy gets his utmost pleasure. Know how to use your hand while sucking. The nastier the better! Dry BJ is a total turn off”

Ball control
“Wet your tongue and lick the head until his beef comes into full attention. Go to the underside and lick the part where the balls and shaft meet. This part is sensitive that it will make the beef point to heaven”

“She has to be ready to give the entire area attention, acknowledging the presence of the pair, now this should only be tried by one that knows that the balls are super sensitive and can make a grown man weep if mishandled. A gentle rub does it…”

“If the male penis is a motor, his balls are the gear shift. Gently cupping his testicles will widen the area of sexual pleasure for him, and can even intensify his orgasm”

“When it’s around the nut sac, BE super GENTLE”

“It is always good to explore and never forget the balls”

Less or no teeth
“ You know a girl is good at the art if she doesn’t bruise your dick with her teeth!! That really hurts!!”

“Careful with the teeth. It feels good when brushing with a little bit of teeth occasionally depending on how the girl uses it. No BITING just brush them around places”

“ To be fair the worst BJ I’ve had was expected. She warned me that she was a first timer and needs to be directed. I gave her the go ahead. Lets put it this way, she had sharp teeth and was yet to know the number one BJ rule ‘NO TEETH’. No teeth, ever!”

“Too much teeth is a NO NO NO”

Ultimate control and swallow (or not maybe)!
“I think it is very interesting and sweet to watch a girl swallow haha. It is amazing”

“Even if he’s reached the moment of no return, never feel obliged to let him climax in your mouth. It’s your decision, and is entirely determined by how comfortable you feel with it. If you want to swallow, that’s fine. If you don’t, that’s fine too. If you’d rather take his penis out of your mouth then the same sentiment applies. Whether you choose to go down for a second or so, a minute or more, or all the way to the end, no blowjob is ever incomplete. Nor is it a compulsory act, and he shouldn’t think any less of you if you choose to keep your head held high!”

“By the way let me feel you in on a little dirty secret: Most men don’t wanna see the cum right after release, they would rather have that away and out of sight PLUS word on the street is, it’s healthy for the girl, nutritious and medicinal. So when he erupts in your mouth, kindly swallow don’t show him”

“We appreciate a girl that swallows. BJ and Pride cannot go together. To give a good BJ you need to let that pride of getting dirty go. Swallowing spice it up and really its all vitamins haha”

“Just because your partner has consented to give you a blow job, don’t assume it means they want to go all the way. It may be a dream come true for you, but not if it leaves them gagging or nauseous. So talk it through with them, even if it is a running commentary. If you’re about to ejaculate then tell them, or at least signal that it’s about to happen. Always let your partner decide whether to stay down there for the main event”

Don’t force it

“Giving head is not an endurance test. You are doing it, and not the other way round, so if you want to come up for air then do so. If anything, it’ll give us time out to appreciate what you’re doing”

“I’m am a giver. I enjoy giving more than receiving. It is always a better feeling watching her eyes turn and her toes curl. It is not like I have to receive a good one first I just enjoy giving pleasure because that gives me pleasure too. But it is also give and take”

“If your partner does feel comfortable with oral sex, then consider returning the gesture – male or female. The more you share, the more rewarding it’ll be for you both”

“So you’re sharing an intimate moment. You’re both turned on like the National Grid, and sex is on the cards. So guys, don’t ruin the moment by placing your palm on the crown of her head and slowly pressing. If she feels comfortable going down there, she’ll venture south on her own accord. As so many women have told us, there’s nothing worse than a bloke who expects a blow job”

“Tempting as it is to lie back with your eyes squeezed tightly shut, your partner will appreciate some recognition for their efforts. Be encouraging. Be respectful. Be the one who leaves them feeling as good as you”

Giving head is not as simple as you think. It’s actually an art. First of all, condition yourself. You have to want it. You have to be submissive, sexy, naughty, and very into it. Otherwise, it’s not going to work. It’s not just about unzipping your man’s pants, pulling his penis out, and sliding it up and down your mouth. If you want to give the best, mind-blowing blowjobs, understand that it is a process that should be done with passion. 

 

to be continued……